Feel the difficulties as Challenges to be Successful in life.

To everything there is a season and a reason and also there is a time to every purpose under the heaven. I always think that one who feels that he/she is happy will be happy for ever and the one who ever cries or feels that he is unhappy will always be unhappy and keep crying. One who complains about lack of something will always be complaining in life and never be satisfied and also the one that thinks he is the wisest is generally the greatest fool.

We all come across the difficulties or problems in our life. Some get them at early age and some get them at later age. The difficulties can be of any thing and of course it varies from person to person. For one person the easiest thing can be a difficult thing for other.

• For some of us it is financial.
• For others it is the loss of a loved one.
• For some it is marital disharmony.
• For some understanding a particular subject of studies.
• For some playing a game
• For some any new tasks

I have seen many students or people who give up the things so easily when they see any difficult things in their day to day activities. I always think that the difficulties are opportunities to better ourselves in that particular thing and in fact, I feel that they are stepping stones to greater experience.  Perhaps someday we will be thankful for some temporary failure in a particular direction.  We always think that we have some difficulties in life: that thought itself is a biggest problem and the illusion is a biggest enemy of happiness. I personally feel that the acronym of DIFFICULTIES ends with Success. 

Distinguish: differentiate it from other things. How tough is it to handle and discover why it is so difficult
Initiate the thinking process.

Fear not the situation to face it.
Follow your inner consciousness and the mind rather than foreign elements and

Ignore them if they are blocking your mind. 
Control your emotions

Understand the situation and remember that life is full of challenges and hurdles.

Learn new ways to handle those challenges.

Tactfully handle the situation

Imagine the success

Enjoy the moments of that situation

Success will follow you.

In life always remember that when one door closes, God will open another for us. But it does not mean that you need to wait for the door to be closed. I say that try not to let the door be closed and try to overcome that difficulty because; the happiness we get when we overcome that difficulty is beyond description in words. 

I have seen many people who enriched their knowledge and learnt better from their difficult times rather than before and in fact, the difficult times have helped them in their lives in various ways. I always say that life is not as smooth as we think and I also say that life is not as difficult as one thinks. In fact, life is rich and beautiful in every way. 

We all want a life without difficulties but think of the precious metals how are they made to look so beautiful? Diamonds are made under pressure so as gold which is extracted from quartz. So the more tough life we come across in life, or more difficulties we come across in life, we would be sharper and will be more perfect. 

Remember that challenges or difficulties in life always help us discover who we are but it is not to paralyze us. A simple example to quote related to this is motherhood. It is such a pain to carry a baby in her womb for 9 months and is more pain during the delivery of a baby to the outer world but the amount of joy a mother gets after successfully delivering the baby to the world is beyond expressions. So, one cannot get through life without pain and difficulties. Difficulties are intended to make us better not bitter. Bitter things are always better in life. Take the example of Bitter guard, it is bitter in taste but for diabetics, it is a great medicine.

If we do not struggle with problems or some form of challenges, both physical and mental, on a regular basis, our abilities and our talents weakens and it will be like a death or way to it and there isn't enough left of us to maintain our health because our immune system needs a good workout. Those who do not exercise their brain regularly fall into senility. These are proven facts. For most of us, these failures of our physical and mental abilities in middle and old ages are preventable. Our emotional development is equally designed for hurt as well as for joy. Those who do not experience much in the way of emotional hurt during their lives do not develop an equal scope for joy and happiness when it presents itself. Emotions are like a pendulum, they swing as far one way as the other. If development of emotions is weak in one direction, it fails to develop much in the other. 

People who experience great tragedy and hurt also have the ability to experience joy far greater than those who have "sailed through life." The best example is Japan. We have lots of things to learn from them. The will power and determination and dedication is key to their success. Don't curse your problems. They give you the opportunity to live life to the fullest, to experience happiness and fulfillment. Without them, your life would be relatively dull. No one says you should enjoy your problems. That would be a psychological problem in itself. But you can face them with some degree of calmness knowing that they will pass and happiness will be available to you in the future. 

God will allow difficult times whether they are spiritual, physical or relational problems as a means of accomplishing His purposes. These challenging times will often bring a person to the end of himself and remind him of these great truths. “God is looking for those with whom He can do the impossible-- what a pity that we plan only the things that we can do by ourselves.” Most of us turn to God and ask him to save us from difficulties rather than asking him to give strength to face those in a better way. This reminds me a great quote by Rabindranath Tagore which says that Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers, but to be fearless in facing them.  Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it."  

Obstacles come to instruct, but not to obstruct."

Where there is a problem there will be a solution and where there is wisdom there is happiness. So overcome your difficulties and be successful in your life with more happiness and joy.